Le temps, Nov. 30, 2011) and on some beautiful but expensive needlework kits (my photo shows a little needle case that I completed earlier this year). Yet, when I went looking for more shopping options, I was surprised by how few there were and how limited.
It didn't take long for me to realize why Aix has so few textile crafts shops. On EACH occasion that I have brought out my knitting or other needlework in public or among French friends, I have been teased for being an old woman knitting on the football or rugby sideline or in the living room armchair. Le tricot, la broderie, la couture, ils ne sont pas à la mode! (Knitting, embroidery, sewing, they are not 'in'!) This is in direct contrast to my experience in the United States where knitting and other crafts continue to be very popular. Yet, the young sisters of the French soccer players have been absolutely mesmerized by my projects, asking me questions about the embroidery tension rings and needles, admiring the changing colors on the variegated yarn on my fingerless glove project shown here, and checking on my crafting progress throughout the games. Surely these pleasures are not reserved for just les vieilles dames (the old ladies)?
I've come to think that young girls in this society, and particularly in the south have limited leisure time opportunities, with Barbies, then shopping and cosmetics, and then experimenting with cigarettes among them. Clearly, textile handcrafts are largely out, yet other options like physical activities continue to be fairly segregated by gender. Girls swim, do gymnastics or dance, play tennis, or might ride horses if they have the money. There are a few exceptions, and perhaps my eagle-eyed readers discovered two of them in my last post (the one with the masculine title Allez les gars, Nov. 26, 2012): in the accompanying photo of my son's football team, there are two girls who play soccer alongside the boys. They have to, if they want to play soccer here. While France has a national women's team, the infrastructure for a
girls' youth league is not as well-developed as it is in the United States where young girls have many opportunities to play, and so they do. I have yet to see an
all-girls soccer team or league here in the football-crazy south, and it's probably right to say that France does
not yet have a functioning equivalent of Title IX (the U.S. law that ensures equal funding for
women's athletic and other programs in federally supported
institutions). That means that French girls have to be incredibly determined, tough, and focused, if they want to play le foot, just like the two girls at my son's club as well as the courageous girl I saw yesterday, at a match in Marseille. She waited stoically with her parents for warm-ups to begin, standing just beyond her all-boy team that was horsing around (and excluding her). I watched her maintain her poker-face and her rigid posture as she stepped onto the field at the start of both halves. Clearly, le foot means a lot to her, yet she cannot comfortably express the joy and pleasure she has for the game while playing among and against adolescent boys. (Blog update: I have discovered a New York Times essay about this same topic, Sciolino, Sept. 16, 2002. "Paris Journal; For French Girls, Soccer is a tough goal", suggesting that not much has changed in a decade.)
"Carla supports gay marriage." La Connexion, Nov. 26, 2012) Apparently, this privileged and 'bourgeois' mother (whose voice could make a difference) seems to believe that her young daughter and other French girls will have no problem at all in finding equal and full access to life's pleasures and opportunities.